Though this inner-policeperson usually speaks to us in the harsh and judgmental tones of the larger culture, it does this still with the intention of pre-empting the possibility of such criticism coming at us from the outside world. When the critic is badgering us, it is important to stop and ask inward: "Who's scared?" and, "Honey, what are you afraid of?" and, "What can we do to make it safe for you to go ahead being all of you right now?"

At the very same time, it is important to help detoxify and calm our inner policepersons. We do this by encouraging them to begin to question the messages from the larger culture that continually push us to do or go more, bigger, better, further, faster, yesterday in order to feel worthwhile, valuable or loveable. And, if we are women, it helps to also question the cultural messages that tell us – at the very same time – not to feel too full of our selves, not to put our selves first (ever), not to feel empowered, not to be so emotional, not to be so concerned with process. We can gently encourage our inner policepersons to consider if these are really such healthy values to accept and to adhere to.